As we touched upon the importance of The Ice Queen Diaries in my last post and what it means for me to blog. I thought it would make an an insightful post if I were to talk about what it means to be an Ice Queen, what definitions there are and also what is in the media about them.
Firstly, people ask me “Why are you called an Ice Queen?” It is a long story indeed which I may get to tell you in another post, I’ll only use that as my backup post if I have nothing else to write about. I have been wronged in the past, majorly, by both friends and guys. I did not turn into an Ice Queen, I believe I always was one. Keeping myself a distance from others, expecting nothing from anyone and being pleasantly surprised if something came unexpected. My ex boyfriend in a very inapproriate, unfair and rude email claimed that I was an ‘Ice Queen’. What he said about me was untrue, he tried to blame everything on my character without even looking at his own. His own character was far more severe and crude than any Ice Queen could ever be. The tag Ice Queen stuck, it was the best way to describe me at the time. He had been very perceptive. So I took on the name and decided to use it as a way of life.
Firstly, here are some definitions of what an Ice Queen is, found on Urban Dictionary:
- Definition 1: A sweet and beautiful girl, who is rumoured to be cold blooded and heartless.
- Definition 2: A beautiful woman with an ugly personality; one who disregards the feelings of others.
- Definition 3: A beautiful woman who refuses sexual advances; frigid.
- Definition 4: A cold and haughty woman.
- Definition 5: A woman who lacks the ability to empathise or put herself in another’s shoes.
- Definition 6: A woman who lacks the ability or chooses not to effectively define or react to another’s mode of thought and mood.
- Definition 7: A woman who is so overly concerned with her situation that she does not prioritize or account for another’s needs.
- Definition 8: A woman who lacks empathy in situations where another’s needs are clearly greater than her wants.
- Definition 9: A girl capable of such emotional scaring and cruelty.
“My body may be made of fire but my soul is made of ice.”
I’m Cold by The Cure
I then turned to imdb.com, where I found a 2005 film called Ice Queen and was given a rating of three stars out of ten. The plot involves a unique female species being transported from the Pleistocene Age (Ice Age) and whilst this happens a military vehicle is abducted. The Ice Queen must be kept in low temperatures at all times, otherwise she would awake aggressively. However, she is being transported via airplane and somehow she is warmed, wakes up and kills the pilot. The airplane crashes into a snow avalanche which falls over, buries a resort with it, trapping people with the Ice Queen. The Ice Queen kills some of the people, whilst a guy named Johnny, his girlfriend Tori and some other girl try to escape to save their lives. (I can see why it was only given three stars! I demand a better film using the Ice Queen as their theme! But I get what they’re saying, the Ice Queen must be kept cool at all times. You must not aggravate her in any way, for she will kill you. End of).
I then thought about Wikipedia. It is one of the most unreliable sources around in terms of referencing. But in general, what can people say about the name Ice Queen. It lead me onto a book by Alice Hoffman called ‘The Ice Queen’ published in 2006 by Vintage Books.
“Wishes… burn your tongue the moment they’re spoken and you can never take them back.”
The Ice Queen by Alice Hoffman
The Ice Queen is a woman without a name who makes a wish when only 8 years old that ruins her life. She grows up cold and unfriendly until one day, when she stands by her kitchen window, she is struck by a bolt of lightening. She survives this lightening but is transformed into ice and for some reason can no longer see the colour red. In passing, she hears of a man named Lazurus Jones, who also experienced the same bolt of lightening. But instead of ice, he changes into having a heart and soul made of fire. They have a turbulent love affair, which would be expected by the clever play of hot and cold polar opposites of these characters. How one became full of fire and the other became made of ice. It seems like a cheesy and almost predictable plot, but funnily enough, this was one of the better plots I came across. I think maybe I should think about writing a novel, try to make it more original and less stereotypical than the examples I have found thus far.
My last attempt was yet again on Wikipedia. It was a song called Ice Queen by Dutch rock group Within Temptation. I had remembered that I had this song in my MP3 collection. The Ice Queen is never mentioned in the song and is only referred to as ‘she’. The song implies that she is not a force to be reckoned with and that she is guilty of murder. Many fans have speculated that the Ice Queen in this song is archetypal and may even be inspired by the White Witch Jadis from The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe. She is also the personification of Winter and is also a satanic character. Here is the video for Within Temption’s song Ice Queen.
After seeing the definitions of an Ice Queen, I thought “Surely all these definitions cannot be true?” I think most of the definitions touch upon how icy and cold an Ice Queen’s feelings are. And most of the time I am generally unfeeling towards others, but people underestimate Ice Queens. Ice Queens are the way they are because someone has hurt them somewhere along the way. They have frozen up and are simply shielding their heart in an ice casing. I don’t believe they purposely go out in search of a victim to manipulate, abuse and fuck up. They just like to keep themselves to themselves, both physically and emotionally. However, I will admit, if someone crosses me in a major way, I will freeze them out of my life and pretend they do not exist. It may seem mean but any toxic friends or deadwood need to be frozen out. And as for frigidity, is that really a bad thing? You have so many people sleeping around, is it bad to not want to sleep with the first person you come across? Ice Queens are just people who are waiting for the right person to come along and to melt them to the core. I guess I have been melted, by my significant other. But I still ice out other irrelevant people in my life. So, I may not be a total Ice Queen but I still have my roots intact, the Ice Queen is my alter ego and will always remain so.